Had I spoken disrespectfully to my parents, grandparents, siblings, or anyone else, I would not deserve to be where I am today; but the truth of the matter is, that my parents showed me the same respect they wanted from me and thus it was that I “learned” from their role model.
My brother and sisters complained that I never got spanked, and my wonderful mother replied, “Dick, never needed one,” and she was right; I would never have done anything wrong that would have reflected on my mother, my father, my sisters, my brother, or my grandparents and neither would they.
Actually, I was taught that life was good if you did not misbehave and therefore, i refrained from being naughty; it just seemed the intelligent thing to do.
I was born seven years after my youngest sibling, so I was different. My brother and sisters were competing for attention and though they loved each other, some jealousy was bound to affect their behavior; but they ‘spoiled’ me and loved me.
Granted that I had an idyllic childhood that others did not have and I am thankful for that; I was never mistreated in my life until I was 6 years old and had a sadistic first grade teacher who “taught me” that people can be mean and sadistic.
Children are not born to be a pain in the ass, they have to be taught to be a pain in the ass.
So, I don’t pay much attention to parents and teachers who complain about the bad behavior of children or adolescents.
The first course in college psychology, teaches that the only way to teach good behavior is to be a role model for the student and punishment teaches with harmful side effects; the Bible teacher everyone to ‘love your neighbor’ and ‘love your enemies’.
In my own mind, parents, teachers, used car dealers, politicians, policemen, lawyers, judges, Presidents, etc. would all do well to forget about punishment and think first about love and being a ‘role model’.
When a person reaches that point where he sincerely believes that anyone else is entitled to do anything he does, say anything he does, treat everyone the way he does, that person has reached Nirvana and achieved happiness (contentment not pleasure). Just going to church on Sunday won’t do that for you.
God is good; and, I try to be, too!